Imagine you call up your customer for the outstanding payment and the response is “We cannot make the payment please take back the equipment.” Later in the evening you receive a call that your best friend has been admitted to the hospital.
Next morning you go for a health checkup and the Doctor says that you have a high cholesterol. Later in the day your appraisal has been completed and your senior neither recommends a raise nor a promotion. Aah!
How do you react? Most of the people in your situation will fold up and withdraw in self-pity and cursing. On the flip side there are a handful few who bounce back with vigour and high octane fuel. Where do they get the inspiration to bounce back?
Well I have a close friend who always bounces back irrespective how hard he hits the ground. I am amazed by his capacity to let go of the past and move forward hence I called on him to request recipe for his secret sauce. He kept quiet for sometime and said Vinod lets go watch Cricket live telecast.
My next question to you is “what do you enjoy doing?” I will share my list of few that I have compiled and enjoy doing.
- READING NON-FICTION BEST SELLERS:- My favourite “The Magic of Thinking big,” “Who moved my cheese;” “Think and Grow Rich;” “The Monk who sold his Ferrari;” “Yes the 50 secrets of Persuasion;” “Outliers;” “Tipping point” “The Brain Advantage” and so on.
- LISTENING TO AUDIO :- Listening in the car or on my MP3, Inspirational speeches by Jim Rohn, Sandeep Maheshwari, Brian Tracy and TED.
- NATURE IS A SUPERB CURE :– Going for an early morning walk. There is power in the early hour’s cool wind and the silence in the air.
- TALKING TO POSITIVE PEOPLE WHO UPLIFT AND INSPIRE YOU :– A friend, colleague or a family member. Or attend a seminar or an event with an uplifting theme.
- ATTEND TOASTMASTERS MEETING or visit a museum or an art exhibition.
- Reading my GRATITUDE book.
- And finally SKIPPING, STAIR CLIMBING or a short jog.
What is your Secret Sauce?
You can ask me the same question. Well 2011; 2012; 2013 I miserably failed on my New Year resolutions and I realized that my failure was due to four factors. And they are:
- Fuzzy ideas regarding my resolutions
- No plan of action.
- Out of sight, out of mind and finally
- I did not have a mentor or partner to keep me on track.
This year I changed my strategy which is bearing fruits. Hence, I will share it in this post. December 2013 I decided to shortlist “4” best seller books (non-fiction) that were in line with my goals. And then on December 20, 2013 onwards I chose my first book wherein my theme was “Master Science of Persuasion.” Since I come from a sales background, it’s important to study selling but it’s more important to masters how customer buy? So I chose my first book to be “Yes! 50 Secrets from the Science of Persuasion” written by Steve J. Martin and Robert B. Cialdini. The objective was to: Read the rest of this entry »
- Focus on the “SCIENCE OF PERSUASION” for the next 3 months.
- Study the book and practice the passage and tips.
- Carry the book along with the objective to keep the resolution in my vision.
- Read and re-read and practice the principles.
- Time permitting to read other online content published by the author and comments/reviews written by the readers.
Subsequent to these three months, that is, the beginning April 2014 my theme is “Thinking big” and the book will be “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David J. Schwartz. Similarly, there are themes for the months subsequent to those, that is, from July – September and October – December. By the end of the year I should have mastered 4 principles and made them second nature to me.
This book methodology is working with me because it has addressed the four reasons of failures. You can further reinforce your learning by writing book reviews and blogging your experiences. Or better still, contact a meet-up group and deliver your learnings in the forum.
Your business has been bought over or your profile has been purged and you have been made redundant, how do you respond? Most of the people in your situation will hide in a cave and spend time playing the blame game. When they do get out of the cave they are unprepared to approach the job market.
They are entangled in two complex webs i.e. A web of unplanned activities and a lack of confidence. The result is that you will waste time in trial and tribulations. Remember, you cannot win the battle unless you have a plan and work on your plan. There are three stages you must plan for i.e 1) YOURSELF 2) Get to know the EMPLOYER PERSPECTIVE 3) RULES OF ENGAGEMENT. Let’s touch on the three stages of market approach….
1. Decide what do you do well?
2. Identify what you ENJOY doing?
3. And finally gather evidence to support # 1 and # 2
What is your USP; what makes you stand out and shine; what is your area of superiority? If you need to get additional certification go for it.
Segmentation: What is the target Industry that will need your services? What are the targets Companies and Who will you target within those companies? Define the demographics of your target industry, company and psychographics of your target people. Tip: you can use LinkedIn company page to “DEFINE YOUR IDEAL EMPLOYER”
Focus: Where will you focus your Time? Best possible Industry, Company or People? And how will you contact them?
EMPLOYER PERSPECTIVE: Employer would like to know …
- How can you save him time?
- How can you save or make money?
- How can you improve or increase business efficiency?
Do your homework and craft your answers. If you are in your late 40s or 50s don’t let your age discourage you. Maintain a positive attitude because you are too young to retire whereas your interviewer might feel that you are too old to employ. Believe in your experience as your strength and not your weakness. Ronald Regan to Walter Mondale at a debate once said “I want you to know also I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit for political purposes my opponent’s youth and inexperience.”
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT:
- Network. Connect Online and Offline. Ask your network for advice.
- Customize your CVs for the job. Check the key words in the job specification and include them as action words.
- Be honest in your disclosure.
- Don’t look older than you are. Get in shape and get rid of your belly or excess fat.
- Be friendly with current technological trends. Get on Social Media and create an engagement on LinkedIn and Twitter.
- Prepare for the likely questions from your interviewer such as, tell me about yourself? Why you want to join our company? What is your strength? What is your weakness? What do you know about our company? Where do you see yourself in the next five years? Don’t you believe you are over qualified?
- Prepare two questions for the interviewer.
- Finally if you are past 40/50; inform your interviewer that you are a team player and you are happy to work/report to younger team members. And share that in a story format.
Give yourself 2 days’ for the 3 step exercise and nothing more. And remember, redundancy is not the end of your world because there is a world beyond the corporate world, that is, Entrepreneurship. In the Corporate world you need a MBA whereas an Entrepreneur employs a MBA. Good luck for your next job hunt.
You are being watched by Hackers, Stalkers, Employers, Federal agents (PRISM in US) and Insurance companies. Hence be careful and in this post I am sharing tips on Digital Etiquette and how to protect from Digital Enemies.
- Create and keep strong password
- Protect your computer install good SECURITY SOFTWARE to protect against MALWARE, IDENTITY THEFT and DATA THEFT.
- Don’t give up information that identifies you and could be the cause for IDENTITY THEFT INCLUDING
- Your Home Address
- Phone number
- Your long trips Away from Home
- Short trips away from home
- House layout
- Your risky behavior
- Third Party applications such as ONLINE GAMES can access profile information through malicious links and files. The information gathered through this can be used for various reasons such as spam e-mails and criminal activity. Ensure to always click on links from trusted sources.
- Use the ‘DO NOT TRACK’ feature on your browser while visiting websites
- Clear COOKIES from your system regularly
- Use A SECONDARY E-MAIL ID (not used for personal mailing) for sign-ups
- Use a VPN (Virtual Private Network) – a VPN allows you to encrypt your signal, making your IP address completely illegible to hackers.
- Know your PRIVACY SETTING, who can see your posts and who doesn’t.
- Don’t upload INAPPROPRIATE PICTURES that you would be ashamed 2 years later.
- Don’t PROMOTE YOURSELF TOO MUCH and like share other important relevant content.
- EXPLOITATION: In cyber world People usually tend to update status such as ‘going out with family for dinner at 9’, ‘visiting Dubai on the 25th with family’ and other such messages. These are bits of information that can be exploited by cyber attackers. They can plan to rob the house on the day the family is out or stalk the family at the location mentioned in the status update.
- Avoid topics on Sex, Religion and Politics
- Know who to add and who not to add
- Stop and think before your click to purchase
- Put up a professional profile picture on Social Media sites.
Trust the above helps you towards a safer journey in your digital world
2013 has come to an end and new year 2014 is on the horizon. 2012 I failed in my resolutions whereas in 2013 I failed miserably in my resolutions. This time I have decided to try a different process and am sharing my thoughts in the post. I will agree on resolution provided I can answer the following 6 questions.
- Write my new year’s resolutions.
- Write down why I want to achieve them?
- Do I have the right tools to achieve them?
- Do I believe in them?
- Do I have a plan?
- Finally are they aligned with my goals in life?
If I have a compelling answer to the above Six QUESTIONS then go ahead and incorporate them as part of my 2014 resolution. And in the event I don’t; either I drop them or find compelling reason and then make that part of 2014 resolution.
Good luck for your 2014 resolution and success.
I was surfing the net when I got a Skype call from a friend in India. He said “Hi – I am driving and thought of connecting with you through Skype.” Last Thursday while driving on Emirates road I noticed a long line of vehicles ahead hence I decided to turn towards the city to avoid the traffic. Alas the situation was worse; the traffic had come to stand still. That’s when I realized the traffic in Dubai will continue to grow grim over the next few years. And there are numerous reasons contributing to Traffic jams and am sharing few of them:
Why Traffic jams:
- Population increase.
- Increase in number of vehicles on the road.
- Limitation of infrastructure to handle increase in traffic.
- Global events such as Expo 2020 and other regional events taking place in UAE are contributing towards increased movement of vehicle on DUBAI roads.
- More and more people using cars and not carpooling.
- People from other Emirates not encouraged using Metro services.
- Car owners not using Metro unless it connects direct office to residence.
What can Dubai government do to minimize traffic jams?
- Expand and build road infrastructure to support future growth.
- Develop a feeder Metro; bus and taxi services to connect main metro stations
- Restrict traffic on certain commercials zones.
- Restrict type of traffic or vehicles during certain time periods or days
- Support car pool services and make it simpler.
- Build multi-storied parking zones next to metro stations.
- Work with other Emirates to ease entry and exit choke points.
The traffic jam cost sweat equity in terms of man-hours lost. So what is the solution ? Well I am sharing my thoughts to minimize and add value to your time on the road and or tips to utilize your time when stuck in traffic jam.
- Identify a suitable less traffic time to travel such as leaving early from home to office and office to home.
- Use metro to reach faster and Fresh in Dubai
- Buy your groceries and essential items online to be delivered to your home. And save general purchase commute time.
- Cut down on Commute Time:
- Find residence next to your office.
- Use digital tools such as video conference for meetings.
- Replace onsite with online seminars and web events
- Identify convenient meeting places for business meetings in the city such as coffee shop or restaurants equipped with WIFI
- Things to do when in the car:
- Listen to audio program – Create your University in car
- Listen to your favorite music.
- Touch base with business and friends
- Utilize time to fix up meetings.
- Call on Radio Stations and participate in contests
- Practice breathing exercises – my favourite
- Practice Memory exercises
- Use time to plan your next day
- Set aside travel time for brainstorming new ideas – my favourite
Good luck on your road journey in Dubai
2013 is going down and 2014 is on the horizon. Hence it’s time to examine what did I learn and what do I expect from 2014. Having said that 2013 was a year of learning and I believe year 2014 would be an year of consolidation.
During the 2013 passage I learnt to accept risks and failures. Four deep and powerful messages I learnt were
- Every human engagement is an exchange. The challenge is to understand what is being given and what is being received. For example I met a person who thought she had nothing to offer – but on the flip side I learnt and enjoyed her storytelling, her slangs and her appetite for learning and good eating.
- 2nd most powerful message I learnt was that every day, yes daily I must add value to myself. And when you begin adding value you begin garnering respect from the people around. There is no powerful activity in the world but to gain structured and planned knowledge.
- 3rd powerful message I would like to share is – share your learning, the more you share more in-depth you understand the lesson. 2013 I shared my learning of Twitter, LinkedIn, Big Data and in the process learnt what I would have taken a life time to learn..
- 4th powerful learning “Always Give your best” – go the extra mile to give your best – to others and yourself. This is important and continue raising your bar – what is your best?
Having said that in this post I will share activities that make me HAPPY and may be you will benefit from modelling them. Share it; apply it and be HAPPY.
- Practice Smiling for 10 minutes after your get up in the morning
- Practice silent Laughter for 2 -3 minutes when you are driving.
- Practice Meditation for 20 minutes just before your lunch time.
- Every evening count and write your lessons for the day.
- Shake your body, bend arch and develop elasticity in your body.
- Begin visiting museums and forms of learning.
- Deliver on your commitments always.
- Look for the 5 best things in others.
- Perform conscious act of helping others.
- Watch baby laughter clips – Download from YouTube.
- Read an uplifting book once every month.
- Listen to an inspiring music or a song.
- Attempt what you have never attempted before.
- Introduce yourself to 5 Strangers preferably of opposite gender every week.
- Learn digital tools and automate your digital engagements.
- Daily allocate 30 minutes of your time to think about your family, hobby, job, Goals and Health.
- Gift books to others.
2014 what’s in store for you? You can PLAN, DECIDE and CONQUER
Confidence is your belief in yourself and nurturing it is a continuous process. Another important thing I would like to share is that lack of confidence is the biggest impediment in our growth be it school, University or work life. So it make Life sense to develop and nurture your self-confidence. I am sharing “18” tips to nurture your self-confidence, chose one activity a day and perform it to craft your “BURJ KHALIFA” in CONFIDENCE
- Smile and smile 200% more during the day
- Take up front row chair during a seminar
- Walk and sit straight – no slouching for the next 10 hours.
- Exercise your abdomen muscles for an hour today
- Introduce yourself to 10 strangers during the day
- Befriend the most intimidating person you always feared.
- Go help out 10 people around. It could be helping someone with their grocery bags, opening the door, extending meaningful advice, be creative.
- Take a different route to your work and back home. Dress different, eat different, socialize different and do everything different during the day.
- Go deliver a 5 minute speech in your office get together.
- Fake it till you make it – Think, Act and Speak confident. Your beliefs are your STRENGTH. Your beliefs are your Weakness. The dichotomy is the choice of your beliefs
- Practice eye contact: Increase the duration of your eye contact when talking to others and be the last to break the eye contact.
- Compliment 5 people at your work and then go on to compliment 5 more.
- Practice delivering 5 jokes among your colleagues
- Call up your “3” of your neighborhood supermarket and tell them how happy you are with their services.
- Don’t respond to questions or statements but ask question.
- Visit your neighborhood social organization and volunteer for free work.
- Organize a get together for 10 of your acquaintances and get to know them better.
- Ask for a “5” favours or request for help from “5” different people but not your family members.
Enjoy reading and practicing the tips.
This Friday morning I heard a project speech wherein the speaker mentioned few of the stalwarts who had sacrificed their comfort to comfort others. And in the process they had reached realms of immense respect and honour.
It always happens that few words lubricate your thinking and so was my thinking engine too. And a question popped into my mind. How can I help 10,000 people? Further is it feasible and how much time will it take me to achieve 10,000 milestone?
I set about thinking and defined my formula “WHAT CONSTITUTES HELP?”
- Listening to someone and offering words of support
- Opening or holding the door for a stranger
- Helping a stranger carry his overloaded arms with shopping bags
- Helping someone with directions
- Referring a stranger for a job
- Helping someone get up when they stumble
- Stopping your car to help someone change his car tyre
- Donating blood
- Distributing your old books to the labour camps
- Dropping someone to the hospital
- Helping a fellow passenger fill out immigration form.
- Distributing water bottles to the construction workers across your office
- Teaching blue collar worker people skills. ………………... The list could be endless and is only limited by our thinking.
In my opinion, the biggest challenge is to find people to help. And your 2nd challenge is to identify areas you can help. You have the blue print for your 2nd challenge and now begin finding 10,000 people 1 by 1 to help in next 20 year of your life. Is it feasible? Very much so.
What is your moment of Happiness?
The above two are powerful questions and your answer will differ from your neighbor, your colleague, your friend, your sibling. Because HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND. For some..
- Happiness is watching your favourite movie
- Happiness is accidently meeting your school friend after 20 years at a shopping mall.
- Happiness is finding parking space on the first attempt
- Happiness is getting up without an alarm and raring to go out
- Happiness is enjoying a fresh glass of orange juice
- Happiness is helping out your house boy write a letter to his family
- Happiness is wishing your parents happy Birthday
- Happiness is recovering your misplaced mobile phone in a Taxi
- Happiness is getting the best seat in the restaurant of your choice.
- Happiness is taking your loved ones out for dinner
- Happiness is posting your photograph on FB and getting 250 likes
- Happiness is reading newspaper early in the morning
- Happiness is spending time with yourself away from the noise pollution
- Happiness is leaving early from office to meet someone special
- Happiness is receiving a surprise call from your kids to say that they miss you
- Happiness is getting no traffic to reach your office.
Happiness is a state of mind and so is otherwise. Choice is yours