Life is benevolent because it provides Free Lessons. If you sit down and reminiscence you will realize that every day is a Free class. Now let me reminiscences what did I learn in the past few weeks. However I would avoid names and stories lest it may upset people who inadvertently made me wiser. Read the rest of this entry »
- LAW OF LESSONS: Learning is a Science and if you review your daily activities you will find nuggets of wisdom. Hence sit down in the morning to plan your day and review in the evening to pick nuggets.
- LAW OF EXPERIENCE: Experience is your best teacher; hence given a choice between watching a movie on TV or visit a new place, opt for the later.
- LAW OF FEELINGS: People reciprocate the feelings you communicate. If you communicate sincerity, you would be responded with sincerity. If you communicate respect you will receive respect. Hence decide how you would like to be treated and whatever feelings your communicate; communicate with confidence & conviction.
- LAW OF RISK: Take risks no matter how small. Simply step out of your comfort zone; the more you stretch the more you will find Life in your Life.
- LAW OF ASKING: If you don’t know or in doubt …. Ask no matter how trivial is the subject and you will save time.
- LAW OF OTHERS INTEREST: You want to connect with people; put them first. Entrepreneurs connect most because of their inherent thinking, they think “how he can create revenue in our eco-system.”
- LAW OF THE BEST: Learn from the BEST, be WITH the BEST and be the BEST.
- LAW OF CONNECTIONS: School and University experiences are the Super glue. Hence friends made during school and University are most potent. I noticed that many startups have co-founders that were school or University buddies. So go revisit your school and University Rolodex.
- LAW OF PARENTS: Parent child relation is the relation of CARING. Parents want to shelter kids from the risk and harsh realities of the life and that is wrong. Child learns best from experiences hence let him learn (risk) earlier than late.
- LAW OF LIVELIHOOD: If you want to travel from Sharjah to Dubai DON’T ask the Taxi driver for fare followed by where can you catch the bus.
- LAW OF AMBIANCE: Quality of your ambiance has reciprocal impact on your performance. Better ambiance is better performance hence create a better ambiance around you; decorate your room, work place with happy memories.
- LAW of MEMORY: Out of sight is out of mind hence consistently remind yourself of high impact activities. Don’t rely on your memory but write down in your diary so that it gets done, You derive maximum pleasure from completing high impact activities.
I have shared TWELVE laws and am certain you will benefit from it Too .
“The experience adds to sticky factor is a really good post. I just read it. Just a note, it’s not off course it’s of course. And it should be meetings and meets instead of simply meet and meetings :D” .. ……Wrote Alisha Mehra.
This was the email I received from my daughter who is studying to be a lawyer. This was a VERY pleasant surprise that she cared to read and like. The article had bridged the generation gap and during the process I learnt my lesson. Life is about continuous learning and last week I learnt another VERY important lesson. If you want to succeed in life than follow two simple steps
- PLAN MEANINGFUL TASK: Plan and Write down your Meaningful task.
- REMINDER: Continue reminding yourself (Meaningful Tasks) what needs to be done.
Put in POST IT notes reminders on your computer, in your bedroom, in your wash room, in your office, in your car. And sooner than later you will realize that you have accomplished the task. I have realized there is nothing beyond your capacity to achieve, its just that in the humdrum of life our attention is diverted and another task takes precedence. Result we miss deadlines and fail to complete the meaningful task. Hence the trick is CONTINUE REMINDING yourself; put an alert on your cell phone, ask your family and friends to follow up. Sooner you will be a success. It’s like the crying baby gets the milk. Reminders are like the crying baby and our attention like the parents.
Continuous “REMINDERS” is a powerful tool; so Remind, Remind and Remind till you complete the meaningful task.
Last week I was expected to meet a friend in Dubai but was feeling a bit lazy because it would have taken me an hour to drive through traffic and an hour to drive back. Friend called up to reconfirm the meet and I promptly agreed when he said that he has just returned from a full day training session on a yacht. Now this peaked my interest looking forward to interesting conversation.
Yesterday I was expected to meet another friend and once again felt lazy until the friend called up to reconfirm. I had a strong mind to postpone the meet but somehow resisted. And am glad I met him because I began asking him about his hobbies and was exposed to absolutely new side of his personality that was an opportunity to learn and work on Mobile Commerce opportunity.
Now you may be wondering why do I fix up meetings on first place when I am not certain to comply. My answer is I fix up meet to discuss a specific subject but during the time from “Confirmation to the Meet” time my interest takes a deep dive.
On the flip side my post is not about confirming meet and subsequently missing on meeting. What I would like to bring up is that LIFE EXPERIENCES bring in STICKY factor in your personality. The more experiences you undergo and of-course good experiences the more ATTRACTIVE you become. And one simple process way to absorb more experiences is meet people, meet new people and master the art of probing questions. Because you will never uncover others experiences if you don’t ask probing questions.
As we grow up the demands on our time and resources shoots an upward trajectory. The demand plants stress and depression in our fertile mind. How can you insulate yourselves from perceived stress and depression? Simply follow Rule of Three ….
1. 30 MINUTES: Get up early and take a “TALL WALK” walk in the park. This has multiple benefits
- Research says that sunlight acts as a refresher tonic.
- Colour green sprouts up the mood like the sprouting seeds impacting our overall well-being.
- Walking tall peps up your confidence.
- Walking for 30 minutes massages your body muscle increase flow of blood thus acting as a lubricant. Further it enhances the flow of positive hormones in your body.
2. 3 MINUTES: Gaze up in the sky for next 3 minutes. And while gazing count the birds, play with shape of clouds or simply day dream. Chin up gazing uplifts and brings in positive mindset. This too has multiple benefits
- When you look up towards RIGHT you access stored memories part of your brain – Good exercise to ruminate on past success/past images/experiences.
- When you look up towards LEFT you access creativity/construction part of your brain.
- Further Chin up is a good exercise to firm up your neck muscles.
3. 5 MINUTES: Sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes and hmmm OM. This too has multiple impact
- a. Sharpens your focus.
- b. The OM sound acts like a balm on your nerves.
Incorporate Rule of “3” tips in your lifestyle and get back your OPTIMISM in next 20 days.
Dubai is building more roads, more bridges/tunnels, more Salik but still not able to cope with traffic problems. Imagine the sight of Dubai roads if Dubai did not have traffic signals, bridges/tunnels & road signs.
Well our mind is somewhat similar with over 60,000 thoughts running in a day. And most of the time multiple thoughts meander and collide because we have not installed traffic signals or road signs; resultant we invite stress and our productivity level is shot down.
People say focusing your mind on one subject brings the maximum impact. Focused mind also brings more peace and happiness. In a research on a group of monks who had been practicing extreme meditation, it was found that their frontal lobe lit up when meditating which is a response triggered when you are very happy. Hence research proves that focusing your attention on one single task at a time makes you happy. And probably this is the reason we are happy when our mind is uncluttered.
I would suggest few practical tips to bring focus and the tips are INTERNAL and EXTERNAL. Let’s talk about
- Think inside the box: (BRIDGES AND TUNNELS) Assume I ask you “In next 15 seconds write down names of as many green colour things” And thereafter I ask you in next 15 seconds write the names of all green colour things in your refrigerator.” Guess which question will invite a longer list?
- Many a time (TRAFFIC SIGNALS) we engage people in a conversation who we have earlier cheated us or did not keep up to their promises. And when we engage with such people it impacts us adversely; our mood and metabolism. Hence discipline yourself to avoid negative people and negative thoughts. Practice this exercise for the first half of the day and slowly extend it to the day, week and month.
- Six thinking hats (ROAD SIGNS) : This is about exercising your thinking. At any given time think why an idea will work, think why it will not work and think how you can make it better. Use Edward De Bono Six thinking Hats methodology to train your thinking.
- 80/20 Rule: (HIGHWAY/EXPRESS WAY) Apply 80/20 rule in your professional life. List out all activities and decide what is 80% and OUT and what is 20% and IN.
- Every afternoon (FRIDAY MORNING DRIVE ON DUBAI ROADS) before your lunch time and after you reach home in the evening; sit down quietly for 15 minutes and meditate or sit still with no distraction – no TV, No internet, no call, no newspaper and no email just be with yourself.
Enjoy a stress free life.
Last Tuesday I was attending SME meet at Grosvenor Hotel – Dubai. Moments before the next speaker EMCEE asked everyone to rise and said “in next 7 minutes move around the room introduce yourself and collect as many business cards. And the person who collects maximum business Cards will win a Dell Tablet.” Over 100 in the hall stood up whereas I quietly moved out of the hall for a hot cup of coffee. And returned sooner everyone settled down for the next session.
Fast forward the event came to an end and it was time to acknowledge participants and announce the winners. The first winner was for the raffle drawn out of the feedback form submitted by the attendees. And the second draw was for the person who collected maximum number of business cards.
Emcee came to the lectern and asked who has collected 5 or more business cards. Many in the audience stood up. And then he further announced 10 cards or more, many more in the attendees sat down. 15 and more, four remained standing. 20 and more, 2 remained and the Dell Tablet was won by the lady who collected 23 business cards. She was called on the stage to collect the prize and introduce herself.
Immediately few thoughts surfaced in my conscious.
- 23 cards (from an audience of over 100+ people) in 7 minutes for a Notebook seemed very easy task.
- I could have done it easy.
- Oh no I did not carry enough business cards so it was not possible to collect cards. I was still bent on rationalizing why I could not have done it.
- When the announcement for card collection exercise was made; I felt pretty awkward and exercise seemed daunting. Hence I dropped out of the race to get a cup of coffee – an easy way out.
MESSAGE : We are so ensconced in our comfort zone that every change seems difficult but easy when we see someone else accomplishing it. Secondly change brings opportunities. The lady received an opportunity to introduce herself and everyone in the audience was awed by her and congratulated her later.
I am certain that if similar opportunity knocks next time I would still run out of the room to grab my cup of coffee and come back during awards ceremony and envy the winner. Because Change seems Tough.
This morning I had four telephonic conversations before 10:00 am in the morning. All four had different subject, different people and all ended in a BITTER note. I sat down to analyze what happened? Was that a freak coincidence or it’s a pattern – i.e. if you begin well you end well or when you begin badly you end bad. Or I carried feelings and emotions of my first bitter engagement into my subsequent engagements. Well one thing was certain I was dragging my first experience into subsequent experiences.
So what is the solution? Take the cue from KITKAT advertisement – “TAKE A BREAK,” yes I took a break – had a cup of tea, okra stuffed sandwich and smiled back. Many a time in our life we believe …….
- I AM NOT PROGRESSING: Simple Solution: Consciously take a step forward. Enroll for an online course (courseera.org), join a professional forum (meetup), learn a new skill, Get a mentor or a Coach, Talk to someone who you look up to in your profession.
- I AM BORED: Simple Solution: Break the monotony and do something different during the day or at that particular time. May be take a walk, call up your loved one, take up dance class, go for a haircut or body massage, practice Pranayama for the next 20 minutes and clear up clutter in your mind.
- I AM UNHAPPY: Simple Solution: Make others happy, complement someone, wish someone happy birthday, congratulate someone on promotion or job well done. Or better still volunteer for helping others.
Try these simple solutions and you will realize that life is not so complicated but solution lies in simple things in your life.
Couple of weeks earlier a LinkedIn friend asked me to edit his post. Subsequently he published it as LinkedIn “POST” (New Feature). After reading his post on LinkedIn I frantically began searching for the feature and an hour or so later realized that the feature has been selectively released and I was not the lucky one. April 7, 2014 I got lucky because this day LinkedIn released “POST” feature on my profile too.
This is my first post for LinkedIn platform wherein I will share my this week learning. ……… Life is made up of little learnings that can have profound impact; the question is where it is applied. Addition and Subtraction can change your life a little whereas Multiplication or Division can change your life big time. This morning I wrote on my Facebook timeline and it began with the first word “NEW” – and while observing the post a little later; I realized life is like the words. A letter here and there can change the meaning.
- When you add letter “S” to NEW it becomes NEWS. But S at the wrong place has no meaning “SNEW”
- But if you jumble up SNEW it can become “SEWN”
My message is life does not change unless you bring change in your life. The question is where do you bring that change – and second question is how do you bring in change do you ADD, SUBTRACT, MULTIPLY or DIVIDE.
Simple lessons are masked in simple experiences. On the flip side simple lessons are the strongest foundation of our success that is taught in no schools. Let me share seven simple lessons that changed my life.
- ASK for what you want….. Effectively: I joined sales and failed miserably because I did not ask for orders. I suffered more because I did not ask for help either. How I wish I had a mentor who could have taught me the importance of asking and asking effectively. Because when I realized the importance of asking I faltered on asking effectively.
- You improve when you step out of your COMFORT zone: This lesson can change your life and changed mine too. I would make few unplanned calls a day. Some time I would not make any calls and compensate the time with mundane activities i.e. Making proposal or hand delivering proposal copy. I was not progressing. Sooner I stepped out of my comfort zone and began making 4 planned visits a day for the week ahead. Results improved and my learning increased.
- Your personality blossoms when you attempt NEW TASK for the first time: Winston Churchill once said “Change is improvement and perfection is change often.” I had covered most of my life years walking a straight line. And one fine day after a profound discussion with friends I decided to learn one new task every six months. Result I made new friends acquired new skills and discovered new revenue streams. Read the rest of this entry »
- You build strong teams, when you begin looking for GOOD in others: In a corporate world no sooner you walk into the office you are being judged and judgment is about finding faults. What if you endeavor to find good in others; what is their strength where they will be the best fit. Good Manager becomes better Manager when he looks for good in others. Successful leaders find good in other which other may not see or the person himself is not aware of. Many years ago one of my employers picked up a supermarket floor salesman to sell technology and he went on to ace the sales achievement numbers year on year. Employer would successfully repeat this exercise by hiring people from different domain and positioning them in another.
- Be your CHEER leader: Everyone needs encouragement and there are two options to achieving so – either wait for the third party to cheer you up or begin cheering yourself up. Either of them works because our brain does not distinguish between the two commands. So be your cheer leader.
- LOVE yourself: This is extremely important to develop and it is internal as well as external. Internal refers to healthy living – exercise and positive thinking and external refers to continuous learning to sparkle your knowledge. When you practice this principle you will begin to love yourself and others too.
- Get comfortable with setbacks and faster you will succeed: I realized whenever I had a challenge my performance dropped because I was consumed by worries what would happen now? Later I realized that more setbacks I experienced more confident I grew – no more cloud of worries. Hence I decided to take bigger risk to get early lessons and succeed faster.
Simple lessons are masked in simple life experiences; what is yours. If you like it ——- share
Imagine you call up your customer for the outstanding payment and the response is “We cannot make the payment please take back the equipment.” Later in the evening you receive a call that your best friend has been admitted to the hospital.
Next morning you go for a health checkup and the Doctor says that you have a high cholesterol. Later in the day your appraisal has been completed and your senior neither recommends a raise nor a promotion. Aah!
How do you react? Most of the people in your situation will fold up and withdraw in self-pity and cursing. On the flip side there are a handful few who bounce back with vigour and high octane fuel. Where do they get the inspiration to bounce back?
Well I have a close friend who always bounces back irrespective how hard he hits the ground. I am amazed by his capacity to let go of the past and move forward hence I called on him to request recipe for his secret sauce. He kept quiet for sometime and said Vinod lets go watch Cricket live telecast.
My next question to you is “what do you enjoy doing?” I will share my list of few that I have compiled and enjoy doing.
- READING NON-FICTION BEST SELLERS:- My favourite “The Magic of Thinking big,” “Who moved my cheese;” “Think and Grow Rich;” “The Monk who sold his Ferrari;” “Yes the 50 secrets of Persuasion;” “Outliers;” “Tipping point” “The Brain Advantage” and so on.
- LISTENING TO AUDIO :- Listening in the car or on my MP3, Inspirational speeches by Jim Rohn, Sandeep Maheshwari, Brian Tracy and TED.
- NATURE IS A SUPERB CURE :– Going for an early morning walk. There is power in the early hour’s cool wind and the silence in the air.
- TALKING TO POSITIVE PEOPLE WHO UPLIFT AND INSPIRE YOU :– A friend, colleague or a family member. Or attend a seminar or an event with an uplifting theme.
- ATTEND TOASTMASTERS MEETING or visit a museum or an art exhibition.
- Reading my GRATITUDE book.
- And finally SKIPPING, STAIR CLIMBING or a short jog.
What is your Secret Sauce?